Now there is a LOT that can upset someone that has feelings off the radar, because everything can be taken negatively and personally. However, there are some key things that just shouldn’t be said. EVER. And if you think about it, there’s nothing anyone can really say or do that would hurt us most than the torment we put ourselves through. Those demons we live with daily that constantly put us down, tell us we’re shit people, not worth anything and never will be, the world is far better off without us and nobody will ever truly understand and love us. It’s hard enough batting those make-believe downers away, and when a real-life person confirms our thoughts it just amplifies their shouts. And then we’re back in that dark room, thinking of ways to hurt ourselves physically to stop the pain. Ironic, no?
1) You’re overreacting.
No, we’re not. We’re reacting. We feel every emotion X10 compared to the average person. Imagine living like that. Imagine being so out of control with your feelings, and then being told that your feelings are wrong. We can’t predict ourselves or when our next outburst will be, because we ourselves just don’t know. Just try and imagine that. Imagine not knowing how you’re going to react to anything, or how much it’s going to spiral out of control and kill us a little inside. And we’re so cripplingly afraid of being alone, and abandoned by those we love, because 9/10 it’s happened before because people couldn’t “handle” us. And then tell us we’re overreacting.
2) You’re being manipulative.
Are we balls! We’re so consumed by our demons and fears, we don’t have time to think of a master plan to control you. We can’t even control OURSELVES! Don’t be so fucking ridiculous.
3) You need to “get over it” and “pull your socks up”.
Ah yes! Brilliant! Why didn’t I think of that before!? What a genius plan! When you’re emotionally retarded and eating yourself up from the inside, we can’t just flip a switch and go “all better!”, you absolute dick dribble. Try being a little more sensitive.
4) Don’t worry about it.
I can’t NOT worry about it. I’m trying not to, believe me. I don’t want to worry about it, and I’m worrying about worrying about the worrying! Welcome to the chaos!
5) Isn’t there anyone you can talk to?
Yes, YOU! That’s why I’m talking to you about it. And now I’m all pissed and upset because you don’t want to help me unravel my brain spirals, and want to fob me off to someone else. CHRIST! It takes a LOT for anyone, sanity or no, to ask for advice or help. So how about you be a pal and “pull your socks up” and give me some damn advice!?
6) You’ll be fine.
How do you know? I might not be!? Things might work out, they might not. I know that it will eventually stop hurting, but I’m never going to be fine. I’m still going to need help, advice, someone to talk to and the occasional cuddle.
7) You need help.
I KNOW, that’s why I’m talking to YOU! And I’m aware of my diagnosis, and I’ve been everywhere practically begging for help most of my life, you fucking plank. Pointing out the obvious is helping nobody.
8) You shouldn’t have done that.
REALLY!? Well thank you Captain Hindsight! Oh how your observation skills have helped me. Idiot.
9) You’re crazy.
No, not entirely. I’ve just got this thing that makes me pretty emotional. And you being all negative Nancy on my ass isn’t making those emotions chill out any.
10) You’re too much to handle.
I’m really not. I understand that my emotions and outbursts are a lot to take in, and I respect your decision to walk away. But if you’d have done the research on my condition like I’d asked, and put as much effort into this as I had, then there would be nothing to “handle“. And I’m not a toy, I’m a person. I’m not to be handled or controlled, I’m to be loved and understood.